Is your baby wanting to breastfeed all evening?
Is this making you anxious about your milk supply?
It’s common for young babies, especially, to ‘cluster feed’, meaning they feed very frequently or almost continuously over a period of a few hours.This can happen at any time of the day but it is common in the evening and can mean that as your baby feeds almost constantly, your breasts feel ‘empty’.
When this happens it’s perfectly reasonable to worry that your milk supply is lower during the evening. However, Dr. Peter Hartmann, a breastfeeding researcher at the University of Western Australia, has said that in the women he has studied, milk volume is not low at this time of day. Even if milk volume is lower in the evening, fat content is typically higher in the evening (particularly if baby is allowed to control this via cue feeding), so the amount of calories that baby is getting should not be significantly different.
There is research to suggest that when your baby 'cluster feeds' over a few hours, your letdown reflex and, therefore your milk flow, can become a bit slower over this time because of a slower hormonal response. Your letdown reflex can also be affected by tiredness and stress, especially the stress of worrying whether you have enough milk for your baby – what a vicious cycle!
Take a break
One solution if your baby has been feeding for a while and you are starting to feel ‘empty’ is to take a break – pass your baby to your partner if they are around and have a drink, something to eat or a warm shower to help you relax. Your partner won’t smell like milk so your baby is likely to be fairly calm as you take this little break. Then you can come back and try feeding your baby again and he will be more likely to settle at the breast.
Pre-empt evening 'lows'
The best way to boost your evening milk flow is to pre-empt this time: have a rest in the afternoon when your baby sleeps so you aren’t exhausted by late afternoon/evening, make sure you eat a healthy lunch and a healthy afternoon snack. Late afternoon (‘three-thirty-itis’) seems to be a ‘danger time’ for junk food snacking: it’s when your blood sugar is low and your energy reserves are running out so you reach for caffeine or chocolate. As these foods pass through your milk, it’s likely they can contribute to your baby’s evening restlessness too.
To avoid the temptation of junk food binges, keep healthy snacks handy – some boiled eggs in the fridge, avocado, tuna or smoked salmon, hommus and crackers or try some Boobie Bikkies and drink plenty of fluids.
Follow your baby's hunger cues
Allowing your baby to feed whenever he shows hungry signals, your breasts will get the signal to make more milk. Conversely, if you start offering formula ‘topups’ , your breasts will miss out on signals to produce more milk and your supply will reduce – then you offer more bottles until, sadly, your baby starts to prefer the faster flow of milk from the bottle, your supply is insufficient to nourish your baby and soon he is completely weaned. The thing is that even if you give your baby a formula ‘topup’ he may still be fussy anyway. Besides exposing your baby to potential allergens and risking early weaning, research shows that mums who give babies a "bed time bottle 'actually get an average of 45 minutes less sleep overnight – so that’s not really a helpful solution if sleep is your goal.
Is it hunger? Or something else?
It’s also worth considering that evening fussiness and 'cluster feeding' may not be just about ‘hunger’. Instead, it can be a way of your baby calming his immature nervous system because he is actually feeling quite overwhelmed after a ‘busy’ day getting used to the big new world outside your body.
According to Dr. Katherine Dettwyler (who does research on breastfeeding in traditional societies) babies in Mali, West Africa and other traditional societies don’t have colic or late afternoon/evening fussiness. These babies are carried all day and usually nurse several times each hour. There is also evidence that babies who are carried more during the day fuss less in the evening. Perhaps ‘wearing’ your baby in a baby carrier or sling earlier in the day would help to regulate his little nervous system and give you both a calmer evening. Some mothers find baby massage (download Pinky's FREE video) helps their unsettled baby - try a late afternoon massage before your baby hits his fussy time.
By introducing massage when your baby is calm, you will create a positive association so massage will work better to help him calm down when he is upset. Research shows massaging your baby will release calming hormones in your baby and yourself so even if your baby is unsettled, at least you will feel calmer after this lovely connecting time.
Prepare for baby's fussy times
Whether your baby has his fussy period in the evening or sometime during the day, perhaps late morning, for instance, you will find his feeding binges easier to manage if you feel prepared.
Set up a feeding basket with nappies (because as he feeds he will poop, for sure - this is a good sign. Remember what comes out must have gone in); any creams you might need; breast pads, snacks (Boobie Bikkies are individually wrapped) and a water bottle for you (you could fill your bottle with Boobie Tea - iced or warm).
If cluster feeds happen in the evening, make a slow cooker your new best friend so you can have dinner ready to go and you aren't stuck on the couch desperately hungry as you feed your baby.
Snuggle up!
Whether you are worried about your milk supply or you feel your baby may be overstimulated, one of the best ways to ‘reboot’ your milk supply and your baby’s nervous system is to snuggle your baby ‘skin to skin’ – relax in a quiet, dimly lit room and remove or open your own top and cuddle your baby dressed only in a nappy. This will boost your breastfeeding hormones, you will notice every subtle hunger cue and, by allowing your baby unlimited access to your breasts and feeding him whenever he wants, he will feel comforted, relaxed and secure and you will be encouraging a healthy milk supply.
The good news about cluster feeds
The good news is, that babies who cluster feed, usually(but not always) take a good long nap afterwards so, although cluster feeding can happen at any time of day, if your evenings involve sitting on the couch with your baby attached, consider that you are stoking him up for a nice night’s sleep. You are also boosting your milk supply for the following day. And remember the Mummy Mantra for when the going gets tough – “this too shall pass”. It usually does, by around the magical three month mark.
